Quarreling with parents.
Yes, we know that our parents can sometimes be, sorry to say, frustrating, unfair, etc, but how do we keep our temper in check to prevent fights with parents when they're getting on our nerves?
1. Slow down and think.
Taking things slower lets you identify and sort through your feelings as they occur. If you can identify that you're feeling irritated or angry, you may be better able to restrain yourself from taking it out on Mom or Dad.
2. Count to 10.
This is yet another way of getting yourself to loosen up and analyse about how you feel before you act. Take a deep breath, count at a slow pace, then question yourself how you feel and why. You may be aware that it's not the good time to criticize your Dad's opinion, for example, and help yourself out by picking a better time to discuss your point of view with him.
3. Think of the time when your parents have helped or pleased you.
Everyone acts like a monster sometimes and an angel at others. Try to remember an incident when your parents were being as wonderful as ever to balance out the negative feeling you're having about them at the moment.
4. Keep telling yourself that quarreling usually doesn't solve problems. It makes the situation worse.
You may not be feeling exceptionally reasonable, but try to use your head: Will starting a quarrel help settle the situation at hand, or is there possibly a better way? How can you address the issue calmly and with a clear head?
5. Don't be so hard on yourself.
So your mum's angry about your grades or your dad dislike your boyfriend or girlfriend. They're entitled to their opinions, but their opinions don't make you a bad person. You're free to have your own opinions, too. Use them wisely.
6. Take into account what else is going on in your own life.
Are you not feeling well or dumbfounded from a quarrel with a friend?Give yourself some space, too. Don't let your feelings about other events and people colour how you treat your family members - or anyone else, for that matter. You'd probably dislike it if they did the same to you, right?
All quarrels/fights are inevitable. And at time, quarrels are needed to work out an issue or problem. Nevertheless, you should be proud of yourself when you achieve in keeping your mental state in check: Refraining yourself from quarreling with your parents. Keep in mind, your parents are human-beings, too - people who make mistakes, just like you. (;
1. Slow down and think.
Taking things slower lets you identify and sort through your feelings as they occur. If you can identify that you're feeling irritated or angry, you may be better able to restrain yourself from taking it out on Mom or Dad.
2. Count to 10.
This is yet another way of getting yourself to loosen up and analyse about how you feel before you act. Take a deep breath, count at a slow pace, then question yourself how you feel and why. You may be aware that it's not the good time to criticize your Dad's opinion, for example, and help yourself out by picking a better time to discuss your point of view with him.
3. Think of the time when your parents have helped or pleased you.
Everyone acts like a monster sometimes and an angel at others. Try to remember an incident when your parents were being as wonderful as ever to balance out the negative feeling you're having about them at the moment.
4. Keep telling yourself that quarreling usually doesn't solve problems. It makes the situation worse.
You may not be feeling exceptionally reasonable, but try to use your head: Will starting a quarrel help settle the situation at hand, or is there possibly a better way? How can you address the issue calmly and with a clear head?
5. Don't be so hard on yourself.
So your mum's angry about your grades or your dad dislike your boyfriend or girlfriend. They're entitled to their opinions, but their opinions don't make you a bad person. You're free to have your own opinions, too. Use them wisely.
6. Take into account what else is going on in your own life.
Are you not feeling well or dumbfounded from a quarrel with a friend?Give yourself some space, too. Don't let your feelings about other events and people colour how you treat your family members - or anyone else, for that matter. You'd probably dislike it if they did the same to you, right?
All quarrels/fights are inevitable. And at time, quarrels are needed to work out an issue or problem. Nevertheless, you should be proud of yourself when you achieve in keeping your mental state in check: Refraining yourself from quarreling with your parents. Keep in mind, your parents are human-beings, too - people who make mistakes, just like you. (;
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