February 25, 2010

break ups.

Break Ups

You're not ready to let him/her go. But that's that. He/She had decided that it's best for the both of you to break up. You still need him/her. You 'can't survive without him/her'. But once their mindset is made up, you can't do anything about it. All you have to do is - get over it. But the question is. How?

1. Realise that it's already over between the both of you.
Pretend that it didn't happen. I know it's hard to pretend, but well, you just have to try. You broke up for a good reason (even if it's not), and getting back together isn't an option. Until you accept this, you can't start healing.

2. Get Sad
Maybe this might be a little bit far, but yes, just get sad. Give yourself a couple of days to mope around and cry. Sob to your friends, write your unhappiness to a diary, or even screaaaam out loud (a deserted place, that is)! Letting yourself be sad will do you better rather than bottling your unhappiness all up. After all that crying, it's better to start snapping out of it!

3. Leave your ex alone
Ye, korang confirm ada urge nak calling2 and message2 dia kan? Resist it. Korang dua need a little time apart from each other, or else you'll never stop hurting. In a couple of months, you might be ready to try out a friendship, but for now, try to avoid all contact.

4. Keep Yourself Busy
Makin korang duduk dalam bilik nangis2, makin susah korang nak lupakan ex korang. Hang out with your friends and family, go shopping, watch a movie or just lepak-ing with gerek friends will help. It'll make you feel good and get your mind off of the breakup.

5. Force yourself to get over it
After the loss, you won't be thinking about your ex non-stop like you used to. Tapi kadang2 korang nye thoughts will trail back to your breakup. Put aside those sad thoughts off your head and replace them with happy ones. Tak guna korang sedih2 untuk selamanya.

6. Make a Change
Breakups can be a good excuse for fresh starts. Make a fun change: give yourself a makeover, and etc. It'll make you feel happy and give you a big boost of confidence.

7. Let Time Go By
Time really does heal all wounds. The pain you're feeling now won't last forever, even if it feels like it will. Just hang in there. Let time heal your wounds.

Break ups doesn't mean the end of the world. Jangan nak plead untuk dapatkan korang nye ex balik. If they love you, they'll have the initiative to get you back. Give yourself space to learn to get to know more boys/girls of your opposite gender. 'There's a lot of fishes in the sea'. Surely, you will be attracted to one of those 'fishes' and thus, you'll be able to forget your ex. (;

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